#LengTanSpeaks: Questions you should never ask a childless married couple.

The Husband and I have been married for over a year now. And people seem to be sooo curious about our life, or at least our plans. I, for one, am tired of hearing a particular set of questions.

If you are a childless married woman or man, I'm sure you've heard these too. Feel free to add to the list.

But hold up! This blog is not for you. This blog is dedicated to those Nosy Nelly friends and neighbors of yours. For the love of God, please have them read this blog.

Questions you should never ask a childless married couple:

Ayaw nyo bang magka-anak?
Wala pa kayong anak?
Bakit wala pa kayong anak?
(While holding your own child) Ayaw nyo ba ng ganito?
Kailan kayo magkaka-baby?
Kailan kayo mag uumpisa ng pamilya?
Naisip nyo na bang mag-ampon?
Ano? Wala pa?

In English (for my non-Filipino friends):

Don’t you want kids?
You don’t have kids yet?
Why don’t you have kids yet?
(While holding your own child) Don’t you want one of these?
When are you going to have a baby?
When will you start a family?
Have you thought about adopting?
What? Still nothing?

Why shouldn’t you ask any of these questions?

Because you’re being rude.
Because your question may be hurtful to the woman or man; most especially if they are trying to have a baby and have been unsuccessful.
Because it is none of your business.
Because if you were close, you’d know the answer to each of these questions and you wouldn’t have to ask any of it.
Because you don’t know if they just choose to not have kids, or they are having a hard time getting pregnant, or if they suffered a miscarriage.
Because the woman’s body is her business, not yours.
Because if they want you to know, they would tell you.