May tanong ka din ba?

May mga ilan akong naririnig na komento, reklamo, parinig, at tanong tungkol sa aming pagpapakasal.

Sa buhay talaga kahit anong gawin mo, lagi na lang may taong may masasabi, mapupula, mairereklamo, at maitatanong.

Iba't iba ang mga dahilan. Ang iba ay curious lang, ang iba ay kinikilig, ang iba ay natutuwa para sa amin at gustong malaman ang mga nangyayari sa amin, ang iba ay nangi-ngi-alam lamang, ang iba ay lubos lamang na usisera o usisero, ang iba ay lubos na pulaera o pulaero, at ang iba naman ay tunay na may malasakit.

Ang ilang mga tanong ay nakakatuwa, ang iba ay nakakatawa, at ang iba ay nakakainis. Narito ang ilan sa mga tanong na nakakatawa at ang aking mga sagot.

1. "Bakit ka nag po-post sa Facebook at nag b-blog tungkol sa wedding plans mo?" -

Because I want to. I want to give my FRIENDS a glimpse of my life, my journey towards being a wife, and a mother. The same way I post about the other things about my life. I want to share positivity, gratefulness, and the beauty of the people, places, and everything that life has to offer. And on top of that, when I grow old, I want to look back and remember my journey as a person, daughter, cousin, trainer, supervisor, mentor, coach, friend, aunt, sister, girlfriend, fiancée, wife, mother, godmother, and grandmother.

I blog because I want to remember, not just our wedding day, but the sweat, blood, tears, smiles, love, the people, and the road that took us there.

2. "Dapat hindi ka nag po post para may element of surprise." -

I see your point. Rest assured that I  don't post EVERYTHING on social media. OK na? Makakatulog ka na ba sa gabi? Makaka move on ka na? Hindi ko naman pino post yung mga final choices and end product. At sa tingin mo ba i post ko ang tunay na wedding gown ko? So what if I post a picture of the venue? People are going to see it anyway! Tska there will be plenty of surprises during the wedding. Don't worry.

3. "Dapat gayahin mo si __. Hindi sya nagpost tungkol sa kasal nya." -  E di good for her! But I'm not her.

4. "Baka sabihin ng iba nagyayabang ka pag nag po post ka." -

 Sino ba yang iba na yan? If that is what they think then they are no true friends of mine. Kung tunay kang may malasakit, you won't think ill of a person. I am proud, happy and grateful for the things that are happening to me. There is a difference between being proud and being a show off. If you think I'm the latter, then you may want to click that "unfriend" button.

5. "Ano ba talaga? Bakit pa iba iba ang plano/color/motif/designs/etc. nyo?" -

When we first got engaged, we chose Chinese red and champagne gold for a number of reasons. Chinese red because of Kelvin's heritage and it is also my favorite color. Gold because it was my parents' wedding color. But then I decided to change the motif to coral because the wedding is in the summer and Chinese red might be to bills and not to appropriate does summer. And then nagbago na naman ang isip kayo gusto ko pastel colors ang entourage. Since we got engaged we've changed our minds a number of times from the color, to the theme, to the gown, etc. Bakit? Because we can. Because we want to. Kelvin and I will only get married once and we want the best for the both of us. Mas maganda na na magbago ang isip namin ngayon kesa we stick to our original choice and then regret things afterwards. We've been working our asses off for the past 8 years, siguro naman we deserve to make up and change our minds.

Kung sa pagpili na ng kulay ng toothbrush mo pa iba iba ang isip mo, sa kasal pa kaya?

Ngayon, ako naman ang magtatanong. Bakit ang dami mong tanong at comment? Ano ka ba, curious, naiinggit, o concerned?

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I realized I might not want to get married.

Hon and I only have less than four months until we recite our vows.

We have been engaged for more than a year and it has been more than thirteen months of planning, searching, interviewing, meeting, bargaining, choosing, paying, and all other activities in preparation for the wedding.

When people ask me how I am, I always answer with these two adjectives: nervous and excited. I can't help but feel nervous, being the OC woman that I am. With everything that we have planned and the number of people that we are expecting to celebrate with us, I want everything to be perfect and enjoyable for everyone. And of course, I'm excited to start my life with Kelvin, be a wife, then a mother. We have been planning and preparing for the wedding for more than a year now, and I can't wait to see everything that Kelvin, both of our families, and I have planned for turn into a reality. I've had nothing on my mind but Kelvin and wedding colors, gowns, flowers, food, cake, programmes, decors, first dances, and other wedding stuff.

But today, on my way to work, the consequences of what I was about to do hit me. I've been focused on the wedding day and my upcoming life with Kelvin that I failed to realize what I will be leaving behind.

I realized that I will no longer go home to my family every weekend. I will no longer see my parents every week. I will no longer get to hug or kiss Mama, Daddy, and TengTeng as often as I want to. I then started asking myself these questions:

*Who gets to cook our Christmas and New Year dishes with Mama?

*Will I still get to take Mama to the salon so we can get our hairs and nails done together?

*Will I get to go shopping with Mama as often?

*Will I get to eat Mama's cooking every week?

*Will Mama text me everyday still?

*Will TengTeng still be close to me even if I was married?

*Will I get to see our gardens and hear Mama and Daddy talk proudly about their labors?

*Will we get to bond over cups of coffee and chocolate while we talk about our lives, dogs, our dreams, our house, and our plans?

*Will I still get to sleep beside Mama and Daddy at night?

*Will Daddy and I still bond over Pacquiao fights?

*Will Daddy and I still go to gun exhibits?

*Will Daddy and I still bond over UFC?

*Will I still be able to have those quiet moments with Mama and Daddy and have a quiet chat?

*Will I still get to join family trips?

*Will Kuya and I still bond with over TV series, funny movies, music, and badminton?

*Will Ate and I still go on our precious food trips, shopping, and Spa escapades?

I might not want to get married after all...

I guess these questions are normal to ask if a girl is about to get married. But just as Kelvin assured me, he will never take me away from my family and will even go with me everytime I go home. I am happy that Honey loves my family and he knows and respects how much I love my family and he knows how much they mean to me.
 
And with that, my tears have stopped.

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/PlinsesLeng